“It’s time to move on,
It’s time to get goin’
What lies ahead I have no way of knowin’
But under my feet, baby, grass is growin’
It’s time to move on,
it’s time to get goin’.” ~ Tom Petty
There’s nothing quite like a move to make me reflect on life. It requires touching every single thing in a space and, in that process, remembering, feeling, and deciding. How did this come to be with me? What meaning does it hold? Do I still want it or need it? If I don’t, who might? Where does it need to go to find a new life? Will it end up in a landfill? If so, is it better to bring it with me and shove it in a closet? What am I bringing with me, and what am I letting go, both physically and emotionally? I can’t help but notice that the questions of moving are a lot like the questions of the therapeutic process.
Each office I have worked in has been an intimate part of my life, literally holding space for the transformative work of therapy, which is happening not only for my clients, but also for me. In the therapeutic relationship, both individuals are transformed. We learn, feel, and grow together, allowing the relationship to evolve as we evolve. We become more aware of our judgments, soften into our vulnerabilities, and hopefully, meet it all with compassionate hearts. Research still shows that the most important factor in the success of therapy is the relationship between the therapist and the client. I’m banking on that as I tell you that I’m moving the office! The space is a part of the work, of course. We both need a safe place to step away from the business of life so that we can tune inward and become more self-aware. How am I feeling? Why am I triggered? Do I need to set boundaries? What action would be life-serving?
What’s been special about 123 High Parkway:
Meeting with you here was literally me inviting you into my home. I loved the views this space offered of Table Mountain, and how it felt so private, nestled down on its own almost secret road. I also appreciated the view out the
office window of the treetops and wildflowers, which are in full bloom right now! For those of you who liked to sit outside, the covered porch was a second office. It offered the opportunity for me to meet some of your beloved dogs, as well as the entertainment of squirrels, hummingbirds, western tanagers, warblers, and so many more!
Moving out of 123 High Parkway, I am clear that I want less stuff and a smaller space that I’m responsible for. If the roof leaks, I’m looking forward to someone else fixing it. And, like the ranch, 123 High Parkway has one thing I won’t miss. At the ranch, it was the rattlers; at 123, it’s the honking trains!
Meet 805 13th St., Golden, CO:
This is a historic building, right in the heart of downtown Golden. It was built in 1911, and the tile you see on the outside of the building is the original tile. The masons who laid the tile and brick for this building created something that has survived for over 100 years and still looks beautiful! The owner is a Golden historian, and the office I’m moving into was used by his father, who was an attorney, so it is used to holding confidential conversations within its sturdy walls. It’s right next to Abejas, a delicious farm-to-table restaurant, and just down the street from Cafe 13. I know what you’re thinking. That all sounds great, but where am I going to park?! There is a parking lot across the street that is free for the first 2 hours. You scan the QR code, enter your license plate number, and voilà! Free Parking. It’s not just the best space on Monopoly! We are also a few blocks from Clear Creek. If you are interested, I’m going to start offering 1.5-hour creek sessions! We’ll meet at my office, then make the short walk to the creek and find a private spot to sit and talk. There is something about the sound of the water that helps clear the mind and soothe the nervous system.
Heraclitus, a Greek philosopher, said, “No man steps into the same river twice, because it’s not the same river, and he’s not the same man.” I interpret this to mean that everything is always changing, including us! I look forward to sitting with you in the new space, where we can step into our relationship with a fresh start. It’s an opportunity to revisit intentions, goals, what’s working, and what’s not. We can discuss IFS (Internal Family Systems), meditation, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, or Creek Sessions as a way to move with the flow of change. Thank you for being in my life. I am grateful for every one of you and look forward to seeing what unfolds next!
