Does self-hate create insanity? I'd argue yes, to varying degrees. Most of us are dealing with what I'd call an average amount of self-hate. It's manageable, and tends to show up as dysfunctional relationships, addictions, depression, anxiety, and a whole lot of other ways of suffering. When self-hate gets to be too much, and it can no longer be managed internally, it gets projected out on to others. Sometimes it looks like yelling- sometimes like hitting, and sometimes, like killing.
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We all want to be confident. Yet, at times confidence alludes us all. Confidence is tied to our relationship with our emotions. Confidence is the ability to: 1) feel a wide range of emotions 2) be compassionate towards yourself regardless of your emotions 3) express yourself in a skillful way that honors one’s experience as well as the other person’s experience – aka- be compassionate towards others.
My horse Hermano died on March 2nd, 2012. Here are the 3 most important things he taught me: 1) The most healing thing you can offer another being is your complete attention and presence. 2) Health is unique to...
“You have to feel to heal.” ~ Julia Butterfly Hill Most of us have bought into the notion that it’s not ok to cry, especially in front of other people. In reality there are social, emotional, and physical benefits...
Through the practice of mediation, we are able to create a gap between our thoughts and our behavior. By staying present in the energy in the body instead of getting wrapped up in our thinking, we can create choice...
Read about parenting wtihout praise or punishment.
One of the hardest things for people to hear is, “If you are not compassionate with yourself, your ability to be compassionate with others is limited.” I get it! I didn’t like hearing it either. Why? Because it means...
To be honest I never thought much about Steve Jobs, even though I am a die-hard Mac, ipod and iphone user, and my 16 month old son knows how to use an ipad. However, after I heard about his...
In my work I talk a lot about compassion. What it is, and what it isn’t. There’s a lot of confusion out there. The biggest misconception I hear can be summarized as, “If I was really a compassionate person,...
A client of mine recently described his struggles with his wife. “I do victim math. I start adding it all up. I watched the baby so she could work. I did the laundry. I vacuumed. She didn’t say thank...