Posts Tagged "self-compassion"

The Jig Is Up

Posted by on Nov 17, 2011 in Uncategorized | 1 comment

One of the hardest things for people to hear is, “If you are not compassionate with yourself, your ability to be compassionate with others is limited.”  I get it!  I didn’t like hearing it either.  Why? Because it means the jig is up. So What’s the Jig? The jig is that we have all this compassion for the pain of others, when in reality, we don’t.  At least not in the true sense of the word. (For more information on what compassion is, read my article,  “Compassion Confusion”).   Not having compassion for ourselves is a way of avoiding our own pain. It is also aggressive.  If we cannot fully be present with (feel) our own...

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The Gift of the Year- The Carrot

Posted by on Dec 20, 2010 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

A friend called me the other day and said, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year,”  with a slight hint of sarcasm.  Everywhere we go, there is holiday music playing, colorful lights, and cookies. So why don’t we all feel merry and bright? Holiday Incongruence I think the answer in a nut-shell is because many of us experience the holidays as incongruent with our actual experience.  We are being bombarded with several messages during the holiday season: * Spend money to show people you care * It’s time to be with your family (even if they drive you crazy!) * Spend time with your friends celebrating * Eat a bunch of food that’s...

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