Posts Tagged "self-aggression"

Understanding Self-Aggression

Posted by on Feb 1, 2009 in Uncategorized | 1 comment

Insight from a 14 year-old girl: I was recently talking to a 14 year-old girl who cuts herself.  “It’s pain I can control,” she told me.  “I prepare for the pain, feel the cut and see the blood and then I don’t have to feel the other pain.”  I was struck by how much insight this girl had into why she wanted to hurt herself.  I was also struck by how we all do some version of this – create pain to avoid another pain. Self-aggression is a way out: Self-aggression, we think, is a way out of feeling our vulnerability.  When we feel the rawness of life, grief, and/or the fear of inadequacy, the pain can be so great that we just...

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