Don’t Kick the Cat
I’m not a cat person. There, I admitted it up front. Yet, these 4 cats made their way into my office space and they slowly grew on me. I fed them and gave them treats. They purred in my lap came to greet me when I would arrive. They were playful and most of my [...]
This Is An Elf Free Zone
My house is an elf free zone.   “You don’t want an elf!? But why?” I’m asked in disbelief. I don’t want an elf because my life’s passion and work is to help people unlearn all that the elf epitomizes, which is the belief that one’s self worth and worthiness is decided by and dependent upon [...]
The Jig Is Up
One of the hardest things for people to hear is, “If you are not compassionate with yourself, your ability to be compassionate with others is limited.” I get it! I didn’t like hearing it either. Why? Because it means the jig is up.
Wisdom from the Willy Wonka of Technology
To be honest I never thought much about Steve Jobs, even though I am a die-hard Mac, ipod and iphone user, and my 16 month old son knows how to use an ipad. However, after I heard about his death, I became curious about his life. Who was this man that invented the technology that [...]
Compassion Confusion
In my work I talk a lot about compassion. What it is, and what it isn’t. There’s a lot of confusion out there. The biggest misconception I hear can be summarized as, “If I was really a compassionate person, I’d be ok with whatever people do that hurts me, because I know that the other [...]
Victim Math
A client of mine recently described his struggles with his wife. “I do victim math. I start adding it all up. I watched the baby so she could work. I did the laundry.  I vacuumed. She didn’t say thank you or appreciate any of it! Eventually, I feel resentful.  The clincher is she will criticize [...]
Social Anxiety
You’re at a party that you didn’t want to go to in the first place, but you got talked into it. You walk in the room and immediately feel like everyone is watching and judging you. You start to feel extremely self-conscious and think things like, “I don’t know what to say to anyone. Why [...]
The Fly
In my last article, I introduced the idea of working with the mind as a way of curbing one’s temper. To read that article and watch a video by Pema Chodron, click here. Pema explains that we have little control of our external environment, so, what to do when we feel agitated, angry, and aggressive? [...]
Got A Temper? Wear Some Shoes!
Wondering what the heck I’m talking about? Watch this 2 and a half-minute video of Pema Chodron to hear the explanation.
The Shortest Article Ever
Is a video! I know what you’re thinking-how long is it? It’s 20 minutes- and worth every minute. Brene Brown talks about the following in a humorous, personal way: Connection is what gives our life meaning Those that feel connection feel worthy of love and belonging Shame is the fear of disconnection In order to [...]
