3 Things I Learned From My Horse
My horse Hermano died on March 2nd, 2012. Here are the 3 most important things he taught me: 1) The most healing thing you can offer another being is your complete attention and presence. 2) Health is unique to each being. There is no one size fits all approach. 3) When there is suffering, stay [...]
Crying in The Dentist’s Chair
“You have to feel to heal.” ~ Julia Butterfly Hill When people come to see me for therapy, we inevitably end up talking about emotions, and how they need to be felt, not just talked about. And inevitably, I will hear some version of the following: “I can’t feel my feelings! I’ve got to go [...]
Creating A Gap Through Meditation
Through the practice of mediation, we are able to create a gap between our thoughts and our behavior. By staying present in the energy in the body instead of getting wrapped up in our thinking, we can create choice about our behavior. This is the story of my own experience of getting bit by a [...]
The Jig Is Up
One of the hardest things for people to hear is, “If you are not compassionate with yourself, your ability to be compassionate with others is limited.” I get it! I didn’t like hearing it either. Why? Because it means the jig is up.
Wisdom from the Willy Wonka of Technology
To be honest I never thought much about Steve Jobs, even though I am a die-hard Mac, ipod and iphone user, and my 16 month old son knows how to use an ipad. However, after I heard about his death, I became curious about his life. Who was this man that invented the technology that [...]
Compassion Confusion
In my work I talk a lot about compassion. What it is, and what it isn’t. There’s a lot of confusion out there. The biggest misconception I hear can be summarized as, “If I was really a compassionate person, I’d be ok with whatever people do that hurts me, because I know that the other [...]
Victim Math
A client of mine recently described his struggles with his wife. “I do victim math. I start adding it all up. I watched the baby so she could work. I did the laundry. I vacuumed. She didn’t say thank you or appreciate any of it! Eventually, I feel resentful. The clincher is she will criticize [...]
The Fly
In my last article, I introduced the idea of working with the mind as a way of curbing one’s temper. To read that article and watch a video by Pema Chodron, click here. Pema explains that we have little control of our external environment, so, what to do when we feel agitated, angry, and aggressive? [...]
The Gift of the Year- The Carrot
Geronimo
What Do You Need?
Insomnia
Forgiveness
Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
Complex Inferiority
Body Confidence
Communication Gridlock
Inviting the Demons
The Joshua Bell Experience
Do You Create Rules to Maintain Low Self-Esteem?
10 Ways to Stop Worrying About Money
Getting Over the Doormat Syndrome
Understanding Self-Aggression
Anxiety ~ An addiction to negative thinking
Shame ~ Part I
Shame ~ Part II
Anger and the Three Boundaries
Awakening Maitri (Loving Kindness) In Ourselves
The Power of Gratitude
Silencing the Inner-Critic